Myths about Trauma

I appreciate everyone’s response to my last email—your kind words mean a lot.

Let’s pick up the story where we left off:

My early years of healing from trauma, back when the path forward was a total mystery.

The word itself felt intimidating… trauma… and healing from it sounded brutally hard.

I imagined myself:

• reliving every emotion

• digging into every memory

• somehow brute-forcing my way to a better life

But the truth was, I had no idea where to begin.

Now, after guiding hundreds on their healing journeys, I’ve realized the best place to start is with common trauma myths.

There’s a lot of rhetoric online that may be keeping you from getting better.

Let’s explore:

Myth #1: If I ignore it, it will go away.

Obviously false, yet this is 90% of the population's solution to personal, family, and collective trauma.

The truth is trauma thrives in silence. It leaks out as:

• Chronic anxiety

• Emotional instability

• Difficulty connecting with others

The first step to healing trauma is acknowledging it as a factor.

Myth #2: You have to talk about everything to heal.

Yes, talking helps, but trauma is stored in the body—not just the mind.

Even the most profound conversations can fall short of lasting healing.

Deep healing happens when we free and reset the nervous system from the traumatic charge.

Myth #3: Believing only life-threatening events lead to trauma

Trauma isn’t “what happens to you”—it’s about how your nervous system responds.

Even seemingly small moments, like being ridiculed as a child or experiencing a difficult breakup, can leave lasting imprints.

Trauma occurs when we lack the tools to recover from painful events. It’s not directly tied to the severity of the event itself.

If any of these myths have kept you stuck, I want you to know—you’re not alone.

These misconceptions held me back for years, but once I learned the truth about trauma, healing began to feel inevitable.

It’s closer than you think. Stay at it.

With love,

Brian Maierhofer